Any one of us can be tempted to “go negative” from time to time. Sadly, for some, it is the way they communicate most of the time. Whether you are working to combat your own negativity or are needing to respond to negativity from others, here are a few things to keep in mind: (more…)
Posts Tagged ‘Self Awareness’
If you ask people to share a piece of life-changing advice they’ve received from a manager, you might hear a few noteworthy pearls of wisdom. However, you are more likely to find that what typically sticks with someone is not the particular pieces of information that were shared, but how a manager presented the advice.
Here’s why. A manager’s ability to influence employees is, first and foremost, related to the manager’s ability to manage him or herself. Managers often botch “teachable moments” because their message is mixed with an expression of anger or frustration. When messages are delivered in this manner, without consideration for the individual and the situation, it can create the opposite of the desired effect. (more…)
“Complex challenges — ranging from expanding into overseas markets to dealing with the fallout of natural disasters — often don’t respond to conventional approaches and knowledge. Instead, they require innovative thought and action,” says John Ryan, President and CEO of the Center for Creative Leadership (CCL).
Six important things you can do to become a more effective leader include:
Collaborate. Collaborative leaders can get tremendous results. Research shows that the ability to collaborate is a skill that top executives believe their men and women should have. In fact, 97 percent of the executives we surveyed identified collaboration as a key to their organization’s success. And yet, just 47 percent of those same executives believe the leaders in their organizations are skilled collaborators. (more…)
by Peggy Klaus
“Never judge a book by its cover.” Although an often quoted sentiment and a noble goal, most of us ignore this sensible advice. In reality, we humans tend to be judgmental creatures who constantly evaluate each other on the basis of seemingly superficial details such as facial expressions, manners, vocal quality, clothing, and more. But here’s some good news about this tendency to judge: it’s not your fault! (more…)
Emotional self-awareness is the foundational competency of the Emotional Intelligence (EI) model I have worked with for over a decade. This competency provides a solid base upon which to build and enhance Emotional Intelligence competencies including emotional self-management, emotional self-motivation, empathy and nurturing relationships. Yet many of us go through our day unaware and very accepting of the emotional roller coaster daily events evoke. And without recognizing where we are expending our emotional energy, it becomes difficult to progress to developing other EI competencies. (more…)
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Many of you are familiar with Emotional Intelligence. According to Daniel Goleman’s model, Self-Awareness is one of two domains in the area of Personal Competence. The second one is Self-Management which is not covered in this article.
You might think of Self-Awareness as setting the stage for your life. For that reason, it as an essential starting place from which you build the other important aspects of your life.
There are three areas in the Self-Awareness domain of Emotional Intelligence:
– Emotional Self-Awareness.
– Accurate Self-Assessment.
Emotional Self-Awareness is the ability to recognize your emotions and their effects. It has been said that there is no thinking without feeling and vice versa. Although we all have blind spots where we do not recognize our feelings, the more aware we are of what we are experiencing, the more learning is possible.
Emotions activate and chemically stimulate the brain. They are a critical source of information for learning and memory. Individuals who are high in emotional awareness:
– Know what they are feeling and why.
– Understand the connection between their feelings and what they think, say and do.
– Know how their feelings directly affect performance.
– Are aware of their values and goals.
Accurate Self-Assessment is the ability to know your inner resources, abilities and limits. We can have blind spots about our strengths and limitations, especially during times of stress when we tend to go on “automatic pilot.” Blind spots, among other things, can cause us to:
– Set unrealistic goals.
– Push others too hard.
– Need to seem perfect.
Individuals who are high in accurate self-assessment:
– Are aware of strengths and limitations.
– Learn more from experience.
– Are reflective and have a sense of humor.
– Are open to constructive feedback and self-development.
Self-Confidence is the ability to have a sense of your self-worth and accurately know your strengths. When self-confidence is appropriately high, you believe in what you can do with the skills you have. Anxiety levels tend to be low. Individuals who are self-confident:
– Welcome difficult assignments and challenges.
– Are self-assured.
– Can voice unpopular views.
– Are decisive and resilient.
Emotional intelligence is learned through experience, reflection and modeling over time. Time must be set aside with someone you trust and respect that will allow you to experiment with and practice new behaviors, thoughts and feelings to the point of mastery. The environment needs to be supportive, emotionally engaging and offer time for practice.
If you are interested in increasing your Self-Awareness, the following steps are necessary:
1. Believe self-improvement is important.
2. Know who you want to be.
3. Know your strengths and limitations as well as your values.
4. Seek out feedback – how you are perceived by others to determine the gap between who you want to be and who you are presently.
5. Work with a supportive, encouraging person you trust (a coach is ideal) who can guide and hold you accountable as you experiment with new thoughts, feelings and behavior in order to build on your strengths.
6. Practice these new behaviors over time until your ideal self is realized.
Increasing the three areas of Self-Awareness is worth the effort. It establishes the foundation upon which to build relationships and handle the challenges in your personal and professional life.
Maurine Patten, EdD. CMC – The Self-Confidence Sage has been empowering professionals to work collaboratively, increase motivation, and improve performance for the past 8 years using the latest research in neuroscience. Visit Maurine at: http://www.pattencoaching.com/services for details, client testimonials, and her free report “How to Be Resilient in Today’s World.” Mail to: firstname.lastname@example.org
Need help in this area? Today there is a growing body of science in the field of Emotional Intelligence (EI), indicating that proper understanding and use of emotions can help us be more effective workers and better communicators. CRM Learning’s video program, Emotional Intelligence, teaches that organizations that know this, and apply EI principles, come out ahead in employee morale, creativity, energy and productivity.
Self-talk is very revealing. What we tell ourselves goes immediately to our subconscious where it increases or decreases our emotions, like anger, fear, and happiness. Repeated negative self-talk leads to exaggerated and irrational thinking.
This activity helps people become aware of their negative self-talk in certain areas and provides an opportunity for them to experience a change in mindset. (more…)
The Problem: It doesn’t matter if the company has six, 60, or 60,000 employees – this training situation is all about the individual. And here it is: Each and every one those individuals has an internal “filter” that affects how he or she views the world, and themselves. Your filter is shaped by a variety of influences; culture, background, position, history. But being aware of how your filter affects others around you is often a challenge for many people since it requires a high degree of self-awareness, not to mention an open mind. How does a trainer help people understand this fundamental human reality?
The Solution: Leadership and Self Deception, the CRM video program that tells the story of a 19th century doctor who challenged the status quo with a provocative new theory about germs and infections. Because of the stubborn mindsets of the medical establishment at the time, his was not an easy road.
Dr. Bea Carson of Carson Consultants in Maryland uses this video and several others to help her clients “open the doors of perception” and self-awareness. She calls it “being out of your box”.
Carson has conducted this program for a number of clients, several of them more than once. Training is done in simple, face-to-face classroom style and participants came from all over the world. She has used many parts of the Leadership and Self Deception classroom guide and also has scripted many portions of her program herself, tailoring it to each company’s needs.
Interestingly, she often uses “Leadership and Self Deception” in tandem with another film that explores cultural perceptions and the conflicts they can cause.
Carson reports that participants who have been through this training come away with a powerful recognition of personal filters, how they’re based on past experiences and beliefs, and how everyone can learn to take a few seconds to evaluate what’s influencing their reactions.
“All of the CRM programs I have used over the years are clearly and thoroughly organized”, Carson says. “It makes training feel extraordinarily simple”.
Watch a free full length preview of Leadership and Self Deception: