When someone says something hurtful, whether to us or to someone else, it’s easy to retreat into ourselves. After all, much of the popular self-help wisdom out there advises us that it’s a sign of maturity to let hurtful statements roll off our backs.
When we see another person subjected to stereotypical comments or prejudice, we might think it’s up to them to respond. How can we know what hurts or offends anyone else – and who are we to step in to defend someone?
Yet prejudicial, stereotypical statements are painful, whether they’re directed at us or at another individual or a group we don’t belong to. We all react in some way. (more…)