It’s a challenging truth about the world of work: we often have to collaborate with people who aren’t easy for us to be with. These are people who, in our personal lives, we’d probably not choose to hang out with – yet at work, what can we do but grin and bear it?
The real challenge comes when these people and the situations they create are so difficult that they start to impact our health, our relationships outside the workplace, or our ability to be effective and successful on the job.
If you’re thinking this could never happen to you, stop and reconsider. Is there someone at work you’re always complaining about – someone you dread having to face? Or perhaps there’s someone you like well enough, but who seems to suck all the energy out of the room, so you end up avoiding them whenever possible.
According to Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster, the experts who wrote the book Working With You is Killing Me, everyone will encounter at least a few people like this in their professional lives. Part of the coping process they recommend includes the following five questions which, in their experience working with thousands of clients, can help you turn the situation around. (more…)